Fight or Flight?

When life smacks us in the face again and again whether it is weariness in well doing, trials, persecution, health and financial issues, mean words and actions from other people, false accusations or whatever, it is easy to become discouraged. It is only natural to cry out to YHVH Elohim in complain: woe is me!, Sometimes we feel like fighting—punching the adversary in the face. Or perhaps our response to adversities is to run away and to hide like the proverbial child who pulls the bed covers over his face hoping the boogie man or the monster under the bed will magically go away. The author of the biblical psalms was no exception to these normal human reaction to depression and discouragement as a result of attacks by people or difficult life situations. 

Give ear to my prayer, O Elohim; and hide not thyself from my supplication. Attend unto me, and hear me: I mourn in my complaint, and make a noise; Because of the voice of the enemy, because of the oppression of the wicked: for they cast iniquity upon me, and in wrath they hate me. My heart is sore pained within me: and the terrors of death are fallen upon me. Fearfulness and trembling are come upon me, and horror hath overwhelmed me. And I said, Oh that I had wings like a dove! for then would I fly away, and be at rest. Lo, then would I wander far off, and remain in the wilderness. Selah. I would hasten my escape from the windy storm and tempest. (Ps 55:1–8)

What does the Bible teach us that our reaction should be when we face adverse circumstances and discouragement is the result? Do we fight our adversary, flee the scene, give up or what? 

The Bible has much to say about discouragement and weariness. Most importantly, though, it shows us how to keep on moving forward without succumbing to the negative and debilitating human emotions of discouragement, depression and weariness that can so easily beset us and take us down.

Do Not Become Weary in Well-Doing

For the average human, one’s entire life is a struggle against opposing forces like adverse health issues, human relational problems or environmental conditions involving economics, workplace issues or political and social upheaval that unexpectedly envelopes us. For the Christian, the battle is even more intense involving not only physical adversaries and forces, but spiritual ones as well including the world (the spirit of antichrist), the flesh (sin) and the devil and his forces of evil that are ever trying to pull godly people downward. Like the spawning salmon, we have to fight our way upstream against the river’s fierce current to reach our goal, but by the grace or divine enablement of YHVH, the Bible assures us that we can make it. Usually the goal is reached and victory comes only after a long struggle. In the body building community there is a saying: No pain, no gain. This is a truism for all of life’s endeavors and the overall message of Scripture. Nothing worth anything comes without a struggle. For example, the farmer sows his seeds and then has to wait patiently for the harvest to occur hoping that drought, floods, blight, pests or weeds will not obviate all of his hard endeavors produce a crop. It is unrealistic to expect instant gratification in this life and relief from life’s trials and struggles. Christians are called to be people of faith. The ultimate and eternal reward is forthcoming to those who persevere and overcome.

Now that we have identified the problem, which is endemic to the human condition, what is the solution? The Bible offers us some encouraging words in the face of discouragement from life’s struggles.

And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. (Gal 6:9)

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of YHVH, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in YHVH. (1 Cor 15:58)

But ye, brethren, be not weary in well doing. (2 Thess 3:13)

But there is more for us to consider when dealing with the battles of life that result in weariness and discouragement.

Heaven’s Discipline Is For Our Betterment

Discouragement often occurs out of conflicts with other people. This was the case with Jacob and Esau. Rather than learning from his mistakes, Esau turned away from YHVH because of discouragement and became a profane or secular person. He was a carnally minded and a worldly person who was focused totally on satiating his physical needs and wants with little or no interest in godly things, thus he failed to take to heart YHVH’s chastening and to obey his parents, to make peace with Jacob his brother and ultimately to serve and obey Elohim.

For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin. And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of YHVH, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom YHVH loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, Elohim dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. Wherefore lift up the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees; And make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame be turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed. Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see YHVH: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of Elohim; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears. (Heb 12:3–17)

What About When People Treat Us Badly?

A major source of discouragement comes as a result humans mistreating each other. Often those who are closest to us—spouses, children, parents and close friends—are the ones who treat us the worst. Such attacks are the hardest to endure. The psalmist experienced the persecution and betrayal of loved ones and then wrote about the pitiable situation in which he found himself.

Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me. (Ps 41:9)

For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of Elohim in company. (Ps 55:12–14)

In my distress I cried unto YHVH, and he heard me. Deliver my soul, O YHVH, from lying lips, and from a deceitful tongue. What shall be given unto thee? or what shall be done unto thee, thou false tongue? Sharp arrows of the mighty, with coals of juniper. Woe is me, that I sojourn in Mesech, that I dwell in the tents of Kedar! My soul hath long dwelt with him that hateth peace. I am for peace: but when I speak, they are for war. (Ps 120:1–7)

Yeshua warned his disciples some of their chief adversaries would be those of their own household.

Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. (Matt 10:34–39)

The Grace and the Love of Yeshua Will Carry Us Through!

So how do we deal with and overcome weariness and discouragement as a result of the betrayal and persecution of loved ones or even from the chastening that comes from our heavenly Father?