You don’t have choose to be gay or transgender…there  are other (better) options!

Life is a series of choices like forks in a road. Which way will you go? Your life is the sum total of the choices that you will make and the consequences which are the results thereof. Thus, would it not be prudent to stop and think before making deciding which way to go? This goes for everyone including those choosing the LGBTQ+ lifestyle. Will this be the right choice and can I live with the consequences for the rest of my life?

Let’s ask ourselves another important question. Am I making decisions based on my feelings and emotions or based on logic and reason? Each of us has an emotional and rational part. What one do we follow? If we ignore one or the other, we might be missing an important piece of the puzzle that gives us the whole picture versus a narrow or incomplete view of it.

The thing about feelings and emotions, as wonderful as they can be, is that they are transitory, ephemeral and often momentary. They come and go and change over time. How you feel this moment will likely change the next moment depending on many life factors that evolve over time—especially as you grow older. Feelings are powerful and can overshadow our more rational side. You may feel like you are making a rational decision, when in reality it is based on your emotions. That is why it is important to stop and let the dust of emotions settle, so your mind can present a clearer picture pertaining to the choices you are about to make.

When considering entering the LGBTQ+ lifestyle, here some questions to ask yourself. What is your purpose on this planet and what brings you the deepest fulfillment? What is your deepest psychological and emotional need? What is your ultimate destiny? What is your chief goal in life? It is material possessions? Fortune? Mental enlightenment, intellectual stimulation and the acquisition of knowledge? Or the strong desire for power, fame and social prominence? How about pursuit of pleasure? Or satiating the sex drive? Having a good time with friends? Food? Physical intimacy? The goals we choose will determine where we end up at the end of your life. When you are on your death bed, will you look back on your life with regrets, wishing you had made different and better choices? These are things that most young people who have their whole lives ahead of them think little about. But life is fleeting and goes by quickly, and no one knows how long they have before they die—when life will end.

If you have chosen the LGBTQ+ lifestyle or are thinking about going in to it, here are some things to think about. What is important to you? Is it your sexual orientation or your gender? Is this the thing that you are most passionate about in life? Is this your main identity that describes who you are? Who you want to be remembered as? Is this the thing in your whole life that will bring you the most fulfillment, meaning and purpose? Will it still be as important to you in ten or twenty years, or when you are 50, 60 or 80 years old? Now consider this: what happens when you die? If there is an afterlife, what will be your fate? Will it be a good or bad one? How can you be sure?