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From http:\/\/www.faithit.com\/seth-adam-smith-marriage-isnt-for-you\/<\/a><\/p>\n

1 \u00bd Years After \u201cI Do,\u201d He Saw Marriage Wasn\u2019t for Him\u2014When He Looked at His Wife, He Knew<\/h1>\n
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They met when they were 15 and were best friends for 10 years\u2014but after being married just 1 year, the truth hit him HARD.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n

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By Seth Adam Smith<\/em><\/p>\n

Having been married only a year and a half, I\u2019ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn\u2019t for me.<\/p>\n

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.<\/p>\n

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for\u00a010\u00a0years<\/em>\u00a0until \u2026 until we decided we no longer wanted to be\u00a0just<\/em>\u00a0friends.\u00a0\u00a0I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?<\/p>\n

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.<\/p>\n

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.<\/p>\n

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, \u201cSeth, you\u2019re being totally selfish. So I\u2019m going to make this really simple: Marriage isn\u2019t for\u00a0you<\/em>. You don\u2019t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn\u2019t for yourself, you\u2019re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise\u00a0them<\/em>? Who do you want to influence\u00a0them<\/em>? Marriage isn\u2019t for you. It\u2019s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.\u201d<\/p>\n

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make\u00a0her<\/em>\u00a0happy; to see\u00a0her<\/em>\u00a0smile every day, to make\u00a0her<\/em>\u00a0laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.<\/p>\n

My father\u2019s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today\u2019s \u201cWalmart philosophy,\u201d which is if it doesn\u2019t make\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0happy, you can take it back and get a new one.<\/p>\n

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It\u2019s about the person you love\u2014their wants, their needs, their hopes and their dreams. Selfishness demands, \u201cWhat\u2019s in it for me?\u201d while Love asks, \u201cWhat can I give?\u201d<\/p>\n

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.<\/p>\n

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful\u2014she showed an outpouring of\u00a0love<\/em>. Laying aside all of the pain and anguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.<\/p>\n

I realized that I had forgotten my dad\u2019s advice. While Kim\u2019s side of the marriage had been to love me,\u00a0my<\/em>\u00a0side of the marriage had become\u00a0all<\/em>\u00a0about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.<\/p>\n

To all who are reading this article\u2014married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette\u2014I want you to know that marriage isn\u2019t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.<\/p>\n

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love\u00a0that<\/em>\u00a0person, the more love\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0receive. And not just from your significant other, but from\u00a0their<\/em>\u00a0friends and\u00a0their<\/em>\u00a0family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.<\/p>\n

Truly, love and marriage isn\u2019t for you. It\u2019s for others.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n

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